I’m sure a lot of people seeing this will hate me for asking this on a Friday, but I’m wondering who consistently gets Sunday evening blues?
You know when the feeling of basking in the warm embrace of freedom and doing whatever you want for two days is gradually replaced by a hint of dread which reaches a climax on Sunday night. You try as hard as you can to keep the feeling at bay. But it hits back stronger.
Is that you?
If so, maybe it’s time to at least allow yourself to reflect on why things have got to this stage, and think about what you can do to change that feeling. I don’t mean just grumble about your work. I mean reflect on what action you can take to deal with the main issue(s) that makes you feel that way.
That doesn’t necessarily mean quit your job. Rather it is about being honest with yourself. Really honest with yourself.
Three key questions that constantly come up with clients when talking about their jobs are:
1) What is it about work that you dread? Is it the work itself? Your team? The environment? The hours? The stress? The way your energy drains over the course of the week? Not having time do anything else? Try and pin down the top 2 or 3 factors so you can be clear about what exactly is ruining your Sunday
2) What’s your role in this? Any psychologist will tell you that it isn’t a situation or circumstances that create an emotion or feeling. It’s our cognitive response to that situation. So as hard as the work might be, or as corrosive the atmosphere might be, its important to become clearer about why something bothers you. For example, if it’s the hours or work environment, what is it inside of you that makes you respond with a feeling of dread?
3) What can you do to tackle this? Consider this. There are 52 weeks in a year. If you take, say, 5 weeks of annual leave per year, that means you have 47 Sunday’s you don’t enjoy because you feel that constant dread and 47 Monday’s where you’re depressed because you’re back at work. That’s 94 days a year, or maybe a few less due to public and bank holidays. Either way, that’s nearly a quarter of the year spent feeling not great at all – which really is a waste. So ask yourself, what can you do to change this? Quitting your job is obviously the nuclear option (although one more and more people are taking). Can you tackle somehow the specific thing(s) that make you dread work? Can you change and reframe how you perceive these situations? Can you schedule in things during the week to look forward to? Do you have something on the side you enjoy doing (for me it was my Coaching business)? Just something to help change the energy. In my experience working with many successful Professionals, the negative energy around work drains them when it comes to other areas of life. So if you want to at least feel better for 90 days a year, it’s time to do something about it.
These are important steps to take when it comes come to changing things in a way where you don’t simply repeat the same mistakes. If you’re not quite sure how to go about answering the above questions, come and speak to me and I’ll help you.
I hope you enjoy your weekend – including Sunday.