I have an anecdote for you that demonstrates nicely why sitting on the fence and delaying decisions can really screw you over.
I went to a fantastic charity event on Saturday. The main raffle prize at this event was a brand new PlayStation 4. Now any male who grew up in the 90’s will appreciate my love for PlayStations – even in my thirties. I’m pretty sure I’ll be buying the PlayStation 28 in my Seventies.
As I was about to buy tickets, I had some doubts enter into my mind, with two big ones. Firstly, if I win will this distract from my work? Secondly, if I win, will it distract from quality time with my family and friends. That might sound a bit extreme but what boys don’t remember their 7-hour FIFA and Pro Evo marathons during university?
Anyhow, I spent ages mulling over this. One challenge I’ve had for as long as I can remember is chronic indecision and worry, which in my case are clear indicators (amongst other symptoms) of Generalised Anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I’ve become much better at dealing with this – but sometimes it still beats you! Like it did at this charity event. While I was thinking about what to do, my wife’s friend arrived at the event and went over and bought a strip of tickets almost immediately. Shortly afterwards I finally thought, “bugger it” and bought my own. Mine was the next strip of tickets purchased after this friend got his.
When the raffle was drawn, guess who won the PlayStation? The friend. The chap who didn’t agonise over it. Not the person who dithered and bought the next strip.
I’m not going to lie, I actually wanted to hurt him a little bit. My doubts about having a Playstation weren’t entirely invalid. But it was pretty clear in hindsight how awesome it would have been to win. Thinking about it, I know that I’d easily manage any concerns about using it too much.
Now, I’ll probably go out and buy one after that episode. But it still makes me think “FU**!” and “what if I had just got in a few minutes earlier”
Moral of the story? If you dither, you’ll end up regretting it.
Now this is a pretty minor example. But what if you have a desire to change or achieve something, and in five years (or even one year) you look back not having taken any action to get there? How will it feel saying “what if” or knowing that you can’t say that you left no stone unturned to get what you really wanted? That to me feels like a shitty place to be.
If there’s something you want to do or change, then at least get on with starting. Whether that’s finding a more fulfilling career or changing something in your personal life.
It may be that you don’t know how to make that happen or could do with some help. If so, give me a shout and we can discuss how I’ll make sure you don’t suffer from PlayStation syndrome.